1- IF I didn’t have a wife and family . . .
2- IF I had enough “pull” . . .
3- IF I had money . . .
4- IF I had a good education . . .
5- IF I could get a job . . .
6- IF I had good health . . .
7- IF I only had time . . .
8- IF times were better . . .
9- IF other people understood me . . .
10- IF conditions around me were only different . . .
11- IF I could live my life over again . . .
12- IF I did not fear what “THEY” would say . . .
13- IF I had been given a chance . . .
14- IF I now had a chance . . .
15- IF other people didn’t “have it in for me” . . .
16- IF nothing happens to stop me . . .
17- IF I were only younger . . .
18- IF I could only do what I want . . .
19- IF I had been born rich . . .
20- IF I could meet “the right people” . . .
21- IF I had the talent that some people have . . .
22-IF I dared assert myself . . .
23- IF I only had embraced past opportunities . . .
24- IF people didn’t get on my nerves . . .
25- IF I didn’t have to keep house and look after the children . . .
26- IF I could save some money . . .
27- IF the boss only appreciated me . . .
28- IF I only had somebody to help me . . .
29- IF my family understood me . . .
30- IF I lived in a big city . . .
31- IF I could just get started . . .
32- IF I were only free . . .
33- IF I had the personality of some people . . .
34- IF I were not so fat . . .
35- IF my talents were known . . .
36- IF I could just get a “break” . . .
37- IF I could only get out of debt . . .
38- IF I hadn’t failed . . .
39- IF I only knew how . . .
40- IF everybody didn’t oppose me . . .
41- IF I didn’t have so many worries . . .
42- IF I could marry the right person . . .
43- IF people weren’t so dumb . . .
44- IF my family were not so extravagant . . .
45- IF I were sure of myself . . .
46- IF luck were not against me . . .
47- IF I had not been born under the wrong star . . .
48- IF it were not true that “what is to be will be” . . .
49- IF I did not have to work so hard . . .
40- IF I hadn’t lost my money . . .
51- IF I lived in a different neighborhood . . .
52- IF I didn’t have a “past” . . .
53- IF I only had a business of my own . . .
54- IF other people would only listen to me . . .
55- IF ... - and this is the greatest of them all - I had the courage to see myself as I really
am, I would find out what is wrong with me, and correct it, then I might have a
chance to profit by my mistakes and learn something from the experience of others,
for I know that there is something WRONG with me, or I would now be where
I WOULD HAVE BEEN IF I had spent more time analyzing my weaknesses, and
less time building alibis to cover them.
Building alibis with which to explain away failure is a national pastime. The habit
is as old as the human race, and is fatal to success! Why do people cling to their
pet alibis? The answer is obvious. They defend their alibis because THEY CREATE
them! A man’s alibi is the child of his own imagination. It is human nature
to defend one’s own brain-child.
Building alibis is a deeply rooted habit. Habits are difficult to break, especially
when they provide justification for something we do. Plato had this truth in mind
when he said, “The first and best victory is to conquer self. To be conquered by
self is, of all things, the most shameful and vile.”
Another philosopher had the same thought in mind when he said, “It was a great
surprise to me when I discovered that most of the ugliness I saw in others, was
but a reflection of my own nature.”